At the root of most physical imbalances are emotional imbalances that compromise our immune systems. These emotional imbalances are often created by feelings of fear, anger and depression. Nobody in their day to day lives can completely avoid stress and adversity, but there are ways to help you be less affected by angers negative charge. Here are a few techniques that I know of:
1. DO NOT IDENTIFY WITH THE PROBLEM.
It is easy sometimes to get so invested in the positive outcome of a certain situation, that should things not go our way we take it as a personal failure. The reality is that we do not control the universe and we do not control other people. Other people have as much of a right to mess up as we do. Recognize this right, and recognize that you are in no way responsible for the shortcomings of others. Have a clear understanding of boundaries, of where you and your responsibilities end and where other people and their field of influence begins. You do not deserve anger if you did your best.
2. DO NOT GET TRAPPED IN VICTIM MENTALITY.
If things aren’t going your way and you feel like you are doing the very best you can but you still get angry, it becomes tempting to blame the people who seem to be standing in your way. Attempt to rise above your negative experience. Instead of asking why something is happening to you, ask what it is teaching you. Instead of saying “My boss is always angry!”, ask “What am I teaching myself through my boss’s anger?” Perhaps this is not the work environment for you. Perhaps you are too meek of a person. Perhaps you are angry at yourself over something and are attracting a boss who would through his anger make you feel less guilty. You do not control your surroundings directly. But there is always some synchronicity between your environment and your vibration.
3. ALLOW SOME PERSPECTIVE.
In this life you are a passer by. Everyone you know is only in the physical plane for a relatively short time. The whole world is a process. Everything changes. Do your troubles really take away from you your ability to enjoy the present moment? Will they matter to future generations? Will you even remember them five years from now? If the answer is no, then do not let these troubles steal your joy and your inner peace. Remember that you are on a journey, you have not nor can you ever arrive at a final destination.
Expressing your emotions in the moment is important. But anger is not an emotion one ever needs to hold onto. Remember the wise words of Buddha: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one who gets burned.”