I think that one of the greatest challenges of our lives is discovering who we are. Shedding social expectation, shedding the desire for approval, shedding the fear of not being loved and discovering what brings us joy and why. One of the best ways of starting to do this is by finding an equilibrium between your fears and negativity and your love and positivity.
Many people I know would disagree with this assertion. They would say that you should only look at the bright side of life. They would say that by being positive you will attract good things to yourself and that by being negative you would attract undesirable things.
Such an approach might prove effective for someone devoid of fears and mistakes, but none of us here on earth are devoid of these things. The whole reason that we have been born into this matrix is to be able to experience circumstances that project back at us the things that we fear, that project back at us our own past behaviours or deep held false beliefs about ourselves and to learn how to overcome these adversities.
A person who is refusing to see the negative side in the people and events that surround them and to calmly accept and express the negative emotions that these circumstances generate, falls into two traps:
First they repress their own true feeling. This repression if it continues for long enough may lead to the person no longer being in flow and at ease with heir surrounding. This in turn leads to disease or an amplification of the negative forces in that person’s life that are trying to serve as a wake up call.
The second pitfall is that by refusing to acknowledge the negativity around us, we are pretending that there is no negativity within us that needs to be worked on, addressed and overcome.
Given our vibrational nature, most people we interact with are our own mirrors, reflecting back at us both the positive and the negative aspects of our own subconscious mind. Therefore refusing to acknowledge a negative projection is akin to avoiding looking in the mirror so you do not have to be faced with the possibility that you need to change your clothes or wash your face.
The downside of not embracing your positivity is more obvious, yet there are still large crowds of people that associate joy with sin and subconsciously avoid happiness because they have been programmed to believe that they are not worthy of it.
These people negate their own needs and try to put the needs of others first regardless of how they are treated. These people embrace subordination, and wait for someone outside themselves to stand up for them and to give them permission to be happy. These people project the negative experiences they had into the outside world. If they are poor, they see the world as poor. If they are alone, they see the world as hostile. They desperately seek justice over the negative things that they have experienced, but this justice is often seen as something outside of themselves and has the potential of turning into revenge and cruelty if allowed to be experienced while in a victim mentality. A victim thinks that the problem has nothing to do with them and therefore they do not transmute it within themselves by confronting and overcoming their fears, need for control and negative beliefs.
Hence my assertion is that we do not come here to be endlessly happy and positive any more than we come here to be endlessly sorrowful and negative. We come here to discover who we are and to embrace that person regardless of their flaws. We are here to bring the darkness into light and to transmute it. Something that simply cannot be done if we refuse to acknowledge that the darkness exists. We are here to increase our capacity to love while facing reality straight on and seeing it for what it is and not just for what we want it to be. That is what makes us strong. That is the first step to discovering our authenticity and embracing ourselves.