Balancing Yin and Yang
Every person, regardless of their gender has two polarities. One pole is male, or yang, and the other one is female, or yin. The male pole is guided by action and the conscious mind. The female pole is guided by intuition and the subconscious mind. In a perfect world, the two energies would be balanced and allow a person to maintain their connection to spirit and authenticity, while making smart decisions and taking the necessary actions to bring their ideas to fruition.
The best example of how this would work, I have found in a book by Shakti Gawain : Living in the Light. Imagine that the female energy in you is a divine Queen. The male energy is the warrior walking besides her, protecting her, and taking action on her behalf. The Queen leads the warrior, not because women should guide men, but because the tool-set at the disposal of the intellect is a lot more limited than the one at the disposal of the intuition.
Imagine that every person is a musician in an orchestra. If every musician tries to only listen to their intelligence for guidance, there will be great dissonance in the world, as we all choose to play a different melody, unaware of what anyone but the closest people to us are doing. But if our intuition is incorporated into the equation, then the intuition will look for guidance to the conductor of the orchestra, and receive a musical part that is in harmony with the whole.
Such an approach to life may make you feel like you are not in control of your circumstances. But this is true regardless of whether you accept it or not. For instance, the decision to buy a house can be made by us after we examine how much loan to income ratio we are comfortable with. We look at the neighborhoods, at the schools, at the economy. We inspect the house. But we still cannot confidently predict who our neighbors will be, how the interest rates will change, how the tax policies will change, whether natural disasters happen in the area, whether our children will fall into poor company, whether the doctors in the closest hospital would save us in case of an emergency, whether having money tied up in a house will make us miss out on an investment opportunity, whether our spouse will take our house in case of a divorce or whether we might want to move in a year for work or health-related reasons… Our conscious knowledge only gets us so far.
We rely on our conscious knowledge because it gives us a sense of empowerment and safety. Acknowledging that we cannot predict the future makes us feel vulnerable and unprotected. We imagine a world where we are guided by fears and superstition rather than by love and belonging. This scary world would be all too real if we rejected our knowledge, our empowerment, our intelligence and common sense altogether in favor of intuition alone. A world where we can all see the conductor of the orchestra but none of us are skillful at playing any musical instrument at all. We hear the dissonance we create and become frustrated by it, looking to project the blame at the musicians around us.
When all is said and done yin is not better than yang, and yang is not better than yin. The two energies need to balance and complement each other in everything in order to create harmony in our lives. We must acknowledge that we are part of something greater than ourselves and allow ourselves to flow with the guidance we receive. We must also not become complacent and lose our ability to function and reason in the real world.