Fear is an emotion/instinct that we all need to survive. Though it has a heavy vibration overall, it is not meant to be outright rejected. It serves the purpose of keeping us safe.
However, as we as a species continue to evolve and develop abilities to grasp more complex ideas, irrational fears begin to emerge and impact our lives in debilitating ways. If you ever find yourself succumbing to this, remember to lean into what scares you, try to understand it and confront it. Not only is this necessary, it is liberating and part of your life mission.
Below are a few steps to help you with this task:
1. Gain knowledge about what you fear.
Often the devil is not as terrifying as it appears. Are you afraid of flying on airplanes? Look at the statistics and learn that airplanes were designed to fly no matter what and that it is almost impossible to make them fall straight out of the sky.
Are you afraid of being imprisoned? Learn that even if that were to occur, the odds of you getting all the bones in your body broken and getting repeatedly violated (things that certain movies portray), really are quite small, even if your fear materialised.
Afraid of social situations? Ask yourself what is the worst thing that would happen even if you did make a fool of yourself in front of everyone? You’d be surprised by just how little time other people spend thinking about you anyway, (and just how much time they spend thinking about themselves).
Are you afraid of a certain disease that runs in your family? Learn how to improve your odds of never getting it, and make sure to look into the emotional/karmic reasons behind this illness.
2. Use your imagination as a force for the good.
People who have deep-seated fears usually also have a rich imaginations. Congratulations if you do, by the way, your psyche is a force to be reckoned with.
What you need to learn now, is how to use your imagination for the good. In this case, for your own good. Look around you at the kind of energies you are allowing into your environment. Are they uplifting and positive, or are they heavy and fearful?
Did you know that your subconscious mind is much more powerful that your conscious one? As the result of this, the kind of things/ information/ inputs that you expose yourself to while you sleep/eat/digest and do other passive activities will get imprinted in your subconscious as part of your programming.
Sharing a meal with someone while having a conversation with them used to be a sign of great trust. You are allowing that person access to your belief system. Sharing a bed with someone is a sign of even greater trust. Falling asleep to a thrilling movie, is, on the other hand, a mistake. Just don’t do it. Put on some positive affirmations instead.
While awake, imagine scenarios of you successfully confronting (or avoiding) and overcoming your fear. Go over them in your imagination endlessly.
3. Breath work and grounding.
Have you ever noticed how different the energy is in a beautiful park or forest to that of a city? When you walk among trees that are hundreds of years old, when you breathe out peacefully and slowly, it is much harder for the world to rattle you with anything.
Next time you are in a park and it is not too cold, take off your shoes and walk around on the bare earth. The ground will absorb some of the unhealthy charge you have received from electronic equipment, and reduce any inflammation in your body.
4. Forgive yourself.
Know that your fear reveals a softer aspect of your nature. Did you know that empaths tend to be a lot more fearful than psychopaths?
Being consciously fearful not only suggests that you have a very active negative imagination, but points to your ability to understand how other people feel in unfavourable situations. This, in turn, will make you want to avoid causing harm or discomfort to others.
Forgive yourself for not being perfect. Understand that just like every light casts a shadow, behind every shadow there is a beautiful light.
5. Ask yourself what desire is hidden behind your fear.
What you focus on grows. Fear can be a way of making you focus on something you are trying to avoid focusing on. Does your fear have an ultimate payoff? Is it something, that, on a certain level, you want to happen, while simultaneously allowing yourself to be victimised by it?
For example, your fear of abandonment, can be masking a hidden desire to be alone with yourself. You may be seeking to take off all social masks and reconnect with your perfect imperfections.
A fear of travel can mask your desire for less social pressure and more freedom to sprout wings instead of roots (something you cannot allow yourself to do presently). If you fear travelling to specific place, behind the sentiment, there can actually be a love for this place that at some point has gone awry. You are subconsciously trying to prevent yourself from the upheaval that fixing this wound could inflict upon your life.
Once you have confronted your fears, and, at least in part, liberated yourself from them, not only do you heal your own heart and mind, but you heal all of your family. You reduce the karmic load so that the lessons that come next are just a little bit easier to confront than the ones that came earlier. What can be more important than that? What can be a greater gift to your community and your loved ones? Whether you are successfully doing this or just trying, well done you!!!